This guide reveals how seduction has been utilised for power. Offered the day and age we live in I believe it is essential to understand how seduction operates. Due to the fact if you do not know you could get seduced by an illusion. If you are aware of methods that can be played on you then you can also be conscious of it and have the energy of decision over currently being 'seduced'. 'Seduction' isn't really sexual it is mental.
An additional quite important point to maintain in head is that the term 'seduction' is used generally in the book to the point where it implies just, 'getting what you want'. Sexual seduction is not the theme of the ebook. The design is the approaches and behaviors that have an effect on each and every human on a unconscious degree. Thus this e-book supplies an essential look at one factor of electricity and how it has been employed historically.
What follows is critiques and an introduction that I wrote from the first 3 chapters of the e-book (kinda deep and monotonous, but if you can get into it the historical references looks to carry politics to life).
Editorial Reviews from Amazon:
From Library Journal
Touted as a "handbook on the most subtle and effective form of power" and "an indispensable primer on how to take what you want from whomever you want," this book is more than a little creepy. Following on the heels of his 48 Laws of Power, this book continues Greene's gross exploration of social power, this time in the realm of sexual politics. In Part 1, Greene, again paired with "packager" Joost Elffers (Play with Your Food), offers a straight-faced description of the nine types of seductive character, from the "Ideal Lover" to the "Rake." Elffers's contribution comes in the form of numerous quotes by famous contemporary and historical figures tucked into the side margins. Part 2 examines the process of seduction, subdivided into four phases, with chapter headings such as "Master the Art of Insinuation" and "Isolate the Victim." This book will have real appeal for power mongers, gold diggers, and heartless manipulators everywhere. Books such as Beverley East's Finding Mr. Write (LJ 5/1/00) and Jama Clark's What the Hell Do Women Really Want? (Island Flower, 1997) offer advice on the same subject without the distasteful exploitative emphasis. David Valencia, King Cty. Lib. Syst., WA
Copyright 2001 Reed Business Information, Inc. --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title.
From Booklist
Greene is the author of The 48 Laws of Power (1998), a compilation of quotes from throughout history that prescribe methods of obtaining and wielding power. He now adds seduction to the mix of stratagems for those who feel the need to scheme to get what they want. Given the popularity of so-called reality-based television programs, it is clear there is a large audience of such people. Greene, again providing quotes on his topic from philosophers, scientists, playwrights, and novelists, examines "the achievements of the greatest seducers throughout history" and profiles 10 seductive archetypes. Although the tactics Greene advises may be distasteful to some, his literary survey is fascinating. As was Greene's previous work, this one is billed as "A Joost Elffers Production." Elffers is identified--with no hint of embarrassment--as a book "packager." A "quote" from a Newsweek review of The 48 Laws is used to hype the new book, though the actual article in which the quote appeared challenged Greene's credentials as an editor and playwright and offered only lukewarm praise. David Rouse
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An Introduction Based On What I Read In The Book
The art of seduction is the art of getting what you want without fighting. In other words, in a successful seduction, the seducer gets everything he or she wants from the 'victim' willingly, to the point where the 'victim' goes out of their way to help the seducer get what he/she wants.
Of course, I am putting the word 'victim' in quotes because although the skillful seducer gets everything desired, the 'victim' doesn't necessarily feel victimized. In fact, in a good successful seduction, the victim never feels pressure but gives out of their own desire to please the seducer.
One somewhat unknown fact about seduction is that it's something created by women. Yes, the Don Juan's of the world are known as the great 'Seducers' but they did not create the art of seduction.
As explained in "The Art of Seduction" by Robert Green, in past times it was more common for men to be merciless and as a result women became almost helpless. Yes, she could entice a man but once a man gets sex she loses her power. This was overcome by women such as "Bathsheba, from the Old Testament; Helen of Troy; the Chinese siren Hso Shi; and the greatest of them all Cleopatra", who created seduction as a way to gain power.
In Cleopatra's case, after she was thrown out by the pharaoh (her brother/husband, as was the tradition there, then) she showed up at a meeting of another conqueror rolled up in a rug. When the rug was unrolled she stood up in stunning cloths and makeup. Everyone was speechless. That night Julius Caesar became her lover.
Cleopatra continued to dazzle Julius Caesar with sensual and visual delights, becoming the male fantasy figure that is an underlying part of all male psychology (more about that later). In other words, having sex with her wasn't enough, she created a desire to possess her. And when Caesar was most seeking her attention, she would withdraw and leave him wondering what he did wrong. Then he would strive to make things better thereby becoming more her slave everyday. She did reclaim her throne.
In the 17th century men appropriated women's techniques of appearance, style and dramatics and combined it with "soft words", which are a weak spot for women, to overcome their resistance to sex. This was an age when women had more freedom and choice. Many of these seducers were Spaniards from which the Don Juan legend sprung.
In our times women are treated less like property, giving them a sexual and political freedom that they haven't had in an average of 4000 years (2000 yrs in Europe and 6000 yrs in the middle east -approx- matriarchies dominated before then). So of course previous tactics of getting a women, such as arranged marriages and as part of business or political deals has ceased to work. (At least, in the west).
This means that now more than ever, seduction has become a key method of gaining power. Simply because seduction is a part of life and business it doesn't mean you have to get caught up in it. Yet knowing how to act with a potential business partner is also the art of seduction.
Can seduction skills help anyone? Yes. If you are not good looking, it simply doesn't matter. You can still seduce successfully. Cleopatra was plain looking but her use of make up made her extraordinary, by being able to capture the male fantasy figure in her persona; which is nothing new, women know this today just as Neanderthal women knew about it in their time,(Primitive Mythology By Joseph Campbell).
Gabriele D'Annunzio, was a journalist in the 1880's in Roman society, who was so ugly that men didn't care if he talked with their wives. But when he talked to women, some said it was like church bells, other said it was hypnotic, and still others claimed he would transform into the God Apollo. He knew just how to flatter a woman, suggesting sex and romance without necessarily doing anything, making their hearts flutter. He married the daughter of a Duchess and continued to grow is social and literary stature through the help of powerful women.
For women, for whom marriage was like slavery, found excitement and pleasure in the idea of a man who was totally absorbed in them and with whom they could let go of the huge social role of civility, commitment and loyalty that she is expected to maintain in society. At a lecture I attended, I actually heard a successful 'intellectual' claim, with complete assurance, that "chastity is a woman's greatest virtue", which underlines the role she is expected to play.
The seducer offers her a break from conventional reality and she is a willing victim. Just as a man is when faced with a 'Marilyn Monroe' like persona, who stimulates him in a way that is very powerful and effective.
The Image That Has Been Used Historically To Seduce Men: "The Siren"
" A man is often secretly oppressed by the role he has to play, always having to be responsible, in control, and rational. The Siren is the ultimate make fantasy figure because she offers a total release from the limitations of his life. In her presence, which is always heightened and sexually charged, the male feels transported to a world of pure pleasure. She is dangerous, and in pursuing her energetically the man can lose control over himself, something he yearns to do. The Siren is a mirage; she lures men by cultivating a particular appearance and manner. In a world where women are often too timid to project such an image, learn to take control of the male libido by embodying his fantasy." By Robert Greene from The Art Of Seduction
In the works by the Swiss psychologist Carl Jung, the image that a man projects onto a woman is called 'the anima' , this is considered to be the feminine part of the male psyche, repressed by society, which is projected onto a female who can best 'carry' this anima image. The same principle applies to women but the repressed part of the psyche that provides material for the projected image is called 'animus'.
Now, how does this apply to seduction? Quite simply, by understanding what the deepest desires and fantasies of a man or woman, you can purposely embody those images thereby creating a powerful attraction which leads to the seduction(social or sexual - or both). You can also know when it is being used on you.
One way of embodying a man's fantasies is to be theatrical. Not in a tacky way by elegantly but with a shocking visual intensity. Cleopatra, provided endless distractions to her lovers (two successive rulers of Rome), with expeditions, plays, orgies, a complete break from the 'the normal' so the man was completely captivated with her. He worshipped her.
The other aspect of embodying a man's fantasies is shown by Marylyn Monroe's, , images who oozes a sexual innocence. I.e. she seems sexual but naive about it. This creates the need in a man to take care of her, never realizing that it is her in charge.
In Marilyn's case she probably felt abandoned from childhood and when she discovered her developing breasts were pulling in attention from boys, an attention she craved, she spent years honing her look. Later when she tried to land more serious roles she found it extremely difficult as her need to be liked created a vulnerability she could not control. This vulnerability is what caused men to fall in love with her, so was a source of her power.
Both Cleopatra and Marylyn Monroe captured a man's imagination and allowed him to lose control. They also embodied an aspect of danger which the male mind finds very seductive as he craves adventure, action and 'newness'. A woman who is dating a man and then relaxes. I.e. doesn't entertain her man, doesn't wear makeup and act seductive etc, WILL lose his attention. Not because he has ceased to care for her but because the stimulation that turns him on isn't there. How often have powerful men suddenly fallen by succumbing to a dangerous liaison? (think Bill Clinton).
Basically, culture and society imposes a role on every one of its members. There are roles specifically for men and women as well as different segments of society. A person fulfills these roles by suppressing those aspects of the psyche that are not socially acceptable. Over time these aspects of the psyche gain power and become, what Carl Jung called, the shadow. This means a non introspective person, who is not into personal development, can get sidelined by repressed desire from his or her shadow that bring them down in the prime of their life/career, or just cause a lot of problems.
The Image That Has Been Used Historically To Seduce Women: 'The Rake'
"A woman never quite feels desired and appreciated enough. She wants attention, but a man is often distracted and unresponsive. The Rake is a great female fantasy figure; when he desires a woman, brief though that moment may be, he will go to the ends of the earth for her. He may be disloyal, dishonest, and amoral, but that only adds to his appeal. Unlike the normal, cautious male, the Rake is delightfully unrestrained, a slave to his love of women. There is the added lure of his reputation: so many women have succumbed to him, there has to be a reason. Words are a woman's weakness, and the Rake is a master of seductive language. Stir a woman's repressed longings by adapting the Rakes mix of danger and pleasure." The Art of Seduction By Robert Greene
The effect that striking physical beauty has on men is replicated on women by 'intense desire'. A woman loves attention (of which compliments are a subset). In fact, she can't get enough attention. She always wants more. So if a man gives her his complete attention, with strong desire in his eyes, she will be attracted to him; almost always. She may repress that desire, or the man may say something that turns her off, but the attraction will exist.
A man who will overcome intense obstacles just to be with one woman while other women crave to be with him, is a big turn on to women.
This is the power of the rake. He is smart, funny sarcastic and able to communicate well in fact in his language he can charm a woman with sensual or sexual undertone, without ever being explicit.
Most women notices slight changes in body language and facial expression. So, subtle flattery and sexual suggestion is more appropriate to most women's sensibilities.
One great rake of history was Duke De Richelieu, who smuggled letters and dug a tunnel to get to a young woman being intentionally protected from him by her uncle. For another woman he crawled across a thin plank to get from his window to hers.
Having obstacles lights a flame of desire to overcome in the heart of a rake. His perseverance to get to the woman to whom he professes his uncontrollable love for is almost irresistible to a woman.
The fact that he could be with any woman and his steadfastly pursuing her, adding excitement to a boring day-to-day life is one of the greatest powers of the rake that makes a woman fall for him.
A woman is often deeply repressed by the social roles she is expected to play. The rake with his sarcasm and amoral attitude allows a woman to experience excitement and to feel a little danger, which is a big relief from her daily life.
Qualities needed to be a successful rake; superb confidence, witty sarcastic sense of humor, artful conversational skills, combined with a complete indifference of other's expectations of you. In other words, a cocky, devil may care attitude works well with women.
Knowing this information helps you understand the kind of 'seductive play' that happens all around us. Women who are naturally good looking can embody the image of a siren for a man and he could get caught up in an image. Same thing can happen to a woman when faced with the traditional 'bad boy'. i.e. you can can seduced by an image EVEN when a person is not trying to seduce anyone. That is how powerful this information is.
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